22 June 2009

Be Where You Should Be

"In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king's men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman..."
2 Samuel 11:1-2

I think most of us know how the story ends-- the man after God's own heart sleeps with the woman, kills her husband to hide it, and is responsible for the death of the baby. Not to mention the associated sins of lying, deception, pride and abuse of power.

And how did these sins all come about? What was the first step? David didn't go off to war in the spring. He sent someone else to accomplish his job while he relaxed on his laurels. Most likely, he felt like he "had earned it."

This lesson applies to all of us. God's word is still applicable today, and not just to the person that fits David's profile (male, king, etc). The first population this reminds me of is teenagers, who allow themselves to be at the wrong place at the right time for disaster. Alone in cars on deserted side streets... at a friends house with no parents... on a school trip. Just like David and Bathsheba, this can result in lies and pregnancy.

What about fathers and husbands? They are out and about in the world most of the day. They need our prayers to surround them. They need to be in the Word to strengthen them. They need to ensure that they are where they are supposed to be. Some people scoff at the thought of a 'grown man' watching that he is not alone staying late with women to work... going out after work... but the Bible teaches us that there "must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity" (Eph. 5:3). This is not to prevent us from having fun or to lock us up, but to protect us.

This even applies to moms like you and I may be. If you work outside the home, much of what
I said about husbands applies to you; women are especially susceptible to emotional affairs. But even in the home arena we must be careful to be where we are supposed to be. I just met a single father, dad to one of Claire's ballet friends. You know how the first time a friend comes over, the parent stays for a minute to 'scope out the place?' I arranged to have a 'chaperon' for the time window that he was going to drop off his daughter. Everyone in my neighborhood knows I stay home all day; I don't want there to be even a suggestion that I was home alone with a man other than my husband. But we also need to make sure we aren't on the computer when we should be playing with our kids; that we aren't texting on our phones when we should be watching the soccer game, that we aren't doing the dishes when we should be talking to our daughters.